Long Distance Relationships – Distance, Heartaches and Dealing With It

Relationships, who needs them? Everyone of course. There comes a stage in the life of a person wherein he or she will be seeking the company of another person. According to Maslow’s Heirarchy of Needs, one can never become a self-actualized man without having felt that they belong to a group or have been loved. Therefore, it is crucial that our social needs be fulfilled.

When we talk about relationship stories, we hear two sides to that story – the good and the bad. It is said that love is bittersweet, and it truly is. What (or who) makes us happy also has the power to hurt us. It may be done on purpose or not, we still get hurt.

Short distance relationships may seem to cause more hurt than those long distance relationship ones. However, the pain is actually the same. Those who were involved in the long distance relationship may have been as serious as those who were in short distance relationships. We cannot say that the distance will help “lessen” the pain. If you think about it carefully, you will notice that the pain of being separated from the person you love is as painful as it already is.

With the distance present, it makes people feel a little less secure with their relationship. People think that with that said distance, there are more entry points for temptations and unfaithfulness. Fearing that this will happen to them is understandable, they do have a point. What makes it wrong is that many people will make a generalization when it really does not apply to everyone all the time.

Some may have come up with the formula that distance is equal to heartaches. These people may not have heard about long distance relationship advices. Or, these people have trust issues and may not have taken the risk of trying to be in one. It is not the distance (at all) that causes heartaches but the people involved. They just have to have someone or something to blame so they point their fingers. The distance between them could not protest since it is inanimate that is why people blame it on the distance. It may sound crazy but many of us are that way.

Pain is inevitable in relationships. We just have to be ready for it. Instead of acting on impulse due to how hurt we are, it is wise to take a deep breath and rationalize. Let us be logical and think about what needs to be done. Look for ways that you could employ for both of you to cope with missing each other and the distance. Listen to advices if you must. Take one step at a time. Surely, you are going to be able to stand the distance.

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