Remember the words of the old song “You never close your eyes anymore when I kiss your lips”? Is that happening to you? Are you confused as to where the love has gone in your relationship?
Perhaps your partner is not responding to your advances any more. Maybe the two of you just seem to have grown tired of each other. It doesn’t really matter how you feel at this moment; what you have to ask yourself is whether this relationship is really worth saving.
Look for the danger signs. Is your partner keeping away from you or avoiding talking to you? Do you still make eye contact when you do talk? Do you feel that he or she doesn’t want to be in the same room as you anymore?
If you are noticing behavior changes like these then you need to confront your partner and find out what is really wrong. You need to start talking to each other, now, before things go from bad to worse to broke. But be prepared for an answer you might not like, because no relationship breaks down just because of one person.
Maybe you’re both not feeling good about your home life together. Perhaps you are not paying enough attention to one another or telling each other how you really feel. Either way you need to get these issues out in the open.
If you suspect your partner is cheating on you then you should look for the obvious signs here, too. Does your partner find an excuse not to go out with you to see friends or go to a movie? Do they take phone calls and move out of the room to talk? Do they hide whatever they are doing on the computer when you walk in?
Even worse you may find that they just aren’t interested when you try to make love. Although this could be due to a number of reasons, stress at work for example, when combined with the evidence above it could be that they are fulfilling their needs with somebody new.
All these are difficult things to confront because they expose gaps in your relationship. But you have to ask these questions otherwise your relationship is going nowhere. You may have to face the ugly truth that your relationship is on the rocks and you can’t claw it back. Life is too short for you to waste your time trying to hang on to someone who doesn’t love you back. But, if you do find that you both still love each other, then now is the time to put into place a rescue plan.
Only once you start talking will you find out the truth. And where you go from there will be down to how your really feel about each other and whether the love you used to rely on is still there.
